Comments on: Living by Your Own Rules: Sexual Integrity

By: Tess

Tess — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 16:56:30 +0000

Like Lisa, I’m a single person not dating. Your post made me think about that. I’ve been aware for some time that my sexual relationships have been completely out of sync with my values. (I’ve always regarded my partner du jour partly as an enemy, someone to manipulate and play power games with. The mind games were what interested me.) I have not, shall we say, had a talent for romantic intimacy or authenticity!

Reading your post made me realise that perhaps I can trust myself to have changed, and that I can make conscious choices around my values rather than slip back into old patterns. So maybe I can dare to start dating again. Thanks.

By: lisa (msla)

lisa (msla) — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 03:28:31 +0000

Becky, this is a great post. As a single person who is not dating, I was tempted to pass it by. But I’m wondering what sort of choices (or non-choices) that I am making that is stunting this aspect of my life. As always, you write thoughtfully and thought provokingly.

By: Carol

Carol — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 01:14:08 +0000

the Unitarian Universalist Association and the United Church of Christ have developed a life long human sexuality set of courses called Our Whole Lives that deals with these issues in a group setting its pretty fantastic.

By: rowena

rowena — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 16:36:23 +0000

That is pretty interesting. I never really thought about this in relation to my sexuality. It puts a whole new spin on things.

I think after having kids, my whole relationship to my sexuality has changed, and it’s time to take a look at it again in light of that and in light of my guiding principles.

Actually, it’s a pretty exciting idea.